Dysfunctional Memoirs
We've been hearing a lot about A Million Little Pieces lately which has caused a lot of lively debate and discussion with customers in both the bookstore and the coffee shop. Which is great! How great to have the general populace debating a book!
James Frey's A Million Little Pieces (Anchor; $14.95) is a harrowing tale of Frey's journey from a hopeless addict to a sober person. There is a lot in the book that gives the reader something real to reflect on and really think about. The story is compelling; chilling; scary; worrisome; arresting and then some. While there is a lot swirling around about the accuracy of some of the details -- the story is still a true one. It is -- first and foremost -- James Frey's reality. And the controversy around it is a good example of how things look through different colored lenses and how one person's reality may be another person's fairy tale. You just never know when you tell your story if your memory is a little or a lot distorted. Keep in mind that eye-witnesses are the least reliable part of a court case.
That said, there are other books out today that tell equally dysfunctional stories without quite the same level of distortion or controversy. J R Moehringer's The Tender Bar is the story of J. R.'s life growing up in Manhasset, Long Island and being essentially raised by the regulars at Publicans, the legendary and local, watering hole. J. R. never knew his DJ father but spends a lifetime waiting to hear his fleeting broadcasts; his mother is loving and caring but hopeless and dreamy and his uncles and grandparents are a family ... but just. That J. R. makes it through grade school, let alone high school and then Yale and Harvard is nothing short of a miracle. J. R. is a lyrical writer; a fantastic storyteller and his life -- though sad, pathetic and dysfunctional -- is an inspiration. How much of this is fabricated? Is seen through the gauze of collective and recalled memory? Hard to say -- but it rings more than true-enough and should satisfy the soul.
A very favorite dysfunctional family memoir of mine at the moment is Jeannette Wall's The Glass Castle. I'd like to think that some of what she writes is mis-remembered or inaccurately recalled or ... tainted by the viewpoint of a child ... but sadly I think her memoir is super-strengh, 100%, over-the-top bonafide. And that is what makes her memoir so searing and endearing and heartbreaking to read. The Walls are an intelligent but quirky family; or that's how the story starts. But the bigger they grow, the older they get the more terrifying and surreal their world becomes. After moving all around the United States the Walls' land in the very depths of the hauntingly beautiful but terribly poor and abused hollers of West Virginia and this is where Jeannette's world starts to unravel and collapse. Through sheer determination, the Walls' kids survival instincts kick into high gear and pull them out of their almost acid trip like existence and deliver them into a much more normal and mainstream life. The very best part of The Glass Castle is the sheer honesty and love and respect shown by Jeannette for her parents and her siblings.



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